All relationship advice is given to me before valentine's day...unless it is given from my dad because that happens ALL THE TIME

My Dad's Classic Dating Advice Gems
"Have you thought about wearing more make-up?"
"Men like it when you have good personal hygiene"
"You need a sexy walk"
"Do you even talk to guys?"

Hey-O!

I usually avoid, ignore, and destroy all dating messages that are given to me because I am secretly...

Super Spinster doesn't wear real pants!

 It's a pretty budding career path as a super hero. I save puppies, only wear pajama pants and eat lots of chocolate without weight gain worries!...but after being inundated with dating advice for the past two weeks with no end in sight I thought I would share my favorite gems. Some are winners and some...not so much. We could all use a little more laughter on the subject though so we don't get caught up in this

This will not last! Plus, I'm pretty sure my dog still loves me. You rock Diamond Belle!

Gem number 1.

Physical touch is very important to a lady. After hugging someone for just 20 seconds she has developed a trust bond with them.

If anyone tells you a girl develops a trust bond with you after getting hugged for 20 seconds THEY ARE LYING TO YOU. Do not force someone to hug you for 20 seconds. It is extremely uncomfortable and will make them cringe at the thought of you getting within 4 feet of their person.

Just...you know...from experience. 

Actual Legit Gem #1

A stake Relief Society workshop was held (that is a meeting for all the women in my geographical area by the LDS church) where a social worker counseled us on creating healthy dating relationships. I, of course, lost the hand out so I'll just copy the important parts that I remembered for you. 

She explained that after working with so many broken relationships she had come up with this ladder (or tweaked one she found I'm not sure). As women we start dating someone in either the friend or close friend stage (or we shouldn't start earlier than that for a healthy relationship). To bring a friend to close friend you need trust and then you need commitment. Where you are officially going steady depends on the person but you can't expect to talk about white picket fences and babies when you haven't reached a stronger commitment level. These steps also take time getting to know the person and we shouldn't rush them. She explained that the women who jumped straight from the first three into intimate partners were stunted in their relationships and they inevitably failed. Either way I realized that I wanted to acquire more close friends- not necessarily in a dating sense. I also realized I need to take better care of my relationships and not let them die out like my pet cactus I keep at work. RIP Pokey.

God wants us to be happy. We are his children and we need and deserve good relationships that uplift us and make us want to be our best selves. There is absolutely no reason you need to settle for anything less. Don't settle for less than would be befitting of a daughter or son of God. You are important and beautiful and doing your best. At least, you should be doing your best. Don't give up. This time of year requires a particular sensitivity to those that are alone. Remember:

 Happy is the heart that still feels pain
darkness leaves and light will come again
swing open up your chest and let it in
just let the love,love,love begin

Everybody, everybody wants to love
Everybody, everybody wants to be loved
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh

Oh, and I fully intend on giving up my Spinster title one day when a truly stalwart man comes into my life with this mind set

 I am confident in someone surviving my awesome weirdness and being my best friend/puddle-jumping puppy-walking partner.

In the mean time...

This book provides great advice for all your dating woes and triumphs!
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I’m sorry, it was unintentional."

 

 

You're welcome in advance for this awesome read.